Monday, November 3, 2008

Breaking Up is Hard to Do...

Some may be rough, others may be amicable. Either way, it's nothing anyone wants to go through. Whether you're on the giving or receiving end, it's not easy. Everyone wants to be loved and needed, especially by the one person who just broke up with us! We want that one person to come back, tell us they miss us. It's validating and irresistible. But word of advice from author Greg Behrendt, "Resist you must. If he's not calling you to tell you he hired a U-Haul to come pick up all your stuff and move it back into his house, then consider yourself a nice, downy little pillow cushioning him from his feelings of loneliness and loss that's he's not fully ready to deal with on his own."
More words of advice for all of us...(yes, myself included) "Put him on hold and listen to me missy: A man who wants to make a relationship work will move mountains to keep the woman he loves. If he's not calling you to tell you he loves you and wants you back, it should only be because he's showing up at your new residence to do it in person. If he's not trying to romance your socks off with dates, flowers and poetry, it should only be because he's too engrossed with his couples counseling workbooks and is prioritizing getting back on the right track. If he's not doing that, he may love you, he may miss you, but ultimately, HE'S JUST NOT THAT INTO YOU! Don't be flattered that he misses you, he should miss you. You're deeply missable. However, he's still the same person who just broke up with you. Remember, the only reason he can miss you is because he's choosing every day, not to be with you."

1 comment:

Sulser Family said...

Amen sister! Don't get me started again...